About Friends and Family Sabotaging Your Weight Loss

One of the hardest things that you have to realize is that your friends and family will try to sabotage your weight loss, they "mean well" but they often don't realize that they are sabotaging you and your weight loss goals. They are comfortable with who you are right now. You changing your lifestyle often causes them to become uncomfortable with themselves and it forces them to think about the fact that they might not be taking the best care of their bodies, it's kind of a rude awakening. So they say little things like... oh well you can start your diet tomorrow, or oh you look fine.

The thing is they really might feel that way about you, they like who you are now, that's great! But you don't feel great about you, tell them that. Just let them know that you would appreciate their support, and if they keep sabotaging you tell them a "story" about a girl you know who is having a hard time with her weight loss because either her husband or friend/family member is giving them crap and sabotaging their goals and ask their advice, often times they will start to realize they are also doing that to you, bring up little things that they are doing to you but always say it is your FRIENDS friend. It works for me. My hubby used to say things to me like... I'll miss your fat, or things like that to make me feel like he didn't want me to lose weight and it would always make me quit, this time I pointed it out to him and he said, I didn't even realize I was making you feel that way.

Sometimes friends won't stop sabotaging you, and that's when the hard truth comes about that they might be someone you have to let go, there doesn't need to be a confrontation, just make a note in your head that this person is not a REAL friend and move on with your life. The great thing about weight loss is you figure out who your REAL friends are, but also kind of sad because you realize that some of the people you really thought were, aren't.

My Guide to Eating Out/Snacks

1) Asian restaurants are your friend

I don't mean the greasy General Tso's chicken that you like so much from your heavily Americanized Chinese food restaurant down the street. When I say Asian foods, I mean high quality, fresh foods, like Phở (pronounced Fuh) the tasty rice noodle/rare beef soup from Vietnam, or Fresh Sushi (sorry not the tempura fried, cream cheese filled kinds either) <-- though every once in a while it's ok, just not for dairy allergy people like me! Shameless Plug for My favorite place to get sushi, Restaurant Hama and my favorite kinds of sushi are, the Alaska Roll, Negi Toro, the Fire Cracker roll, Spicy Salmon, Spicy Tuna (I like spicy) and the soups are great too, the Soba, Udon and Ramen soups are amazing, I find I can eat and eat and eat and never gain weight. (but like I said avoid the fried stuff, some of it can contain just as many calories as a Big Mac! eww)


2) Try the Caveman Diet (if you can afford it)

A GREAT diet where you can eat and eat and eat all day long, til you are stuffed and about to explode and still lose weight. (Yes it is true, you can eat til you're going to explode, I did for a month and lost weight) I tried " The Caveman Diet" for about a month, it worked AMAZINGLY WELL, but I could not afford the large amounts of food that I went through. If you can, I highly recommend this diet plan, however, I did not eat as much meat as they recommend (didn't want to have a heart attack), I ate waaay more fruits and veggies than they said to, and I had one spoonful of honey everyday and I still lost 20 pounds in 2 weeks, I did not exercise at all during this time, this was weight loss only from the diet. Yes I said 2 weeks, it's a very amazing diet just hard to afford.


3) Aladdin's Eatery

I love this place, we eat here on a weekly basis and I always get their rolled pitas, they're affordable, fresh, and healthy. Did I mention they taste good? They are full of fresh veggies and meats, but if you're a vegetarian they have lots of options for you too! I highly recommend the Arayiss Rolled, the Spicy Kafta Rolled, the Falafel Rolled, the Lamb Rolled... basically I recommend all of their rolled pitas, they're low calorie, full of flavor and almost all of them are under 7 dollars (some as cheap as 5 bucks) and they're BIG.


4) Vitatops are amazing

I have only tried two of their flavors so far, the Deep Chocolate and the Cran Bran, but as far as a low cal, tasty, filling snack goes, these are amongst the best I've tried, plus you can order a variety pack to sample all the flavors! (I plan to do this soon)


Well this is pretty much my "diet" as far as eating out/snacking goes, I do occasionally sneak in a piece of dark chocolate or two, or some Chocolate Shakeology (which I shouldn't eat because I'm allergic to dairy and it causes a reaction but it's so tasty sometimes I can't help myself!)

Hope this helps you on your weight loss journeys!